Fidan Shevket has no qualms talking about money. Raised in a family of Turkish immigrants, finances and income were always acceptable fodder for dinner table chats.
So when she and her partner of more than two-and-a-half years started talking about moving in together, the Sydney woman had no issues broaching the idea of a prenup.
To her, it wasn’t awkward, it wasn’t unromantic – it was practical. A recognition of her superior financial position and a way to protect what she’d worked hard to earn over the last two decades.
“I was very upfront about [the agreement]. At first in sort of a joking way, but then as the relationship got more serious I said, ‘You need to tell me whether or not you’re prepared to sign one, because if you’re not then let’s not take it any further,'” the 39-year-old told Mamamia.
“He’s very aware that if he doesn’t sign it, we break up.”
Shevket is one of an increasing number of Australians seeking Binding Financial Agreements, as explored on Tuesday night’s episode of Insight on SBS.
Shevket’s stance comes from 15 years experience working as a family lawyer. She spends her days dealing out advice on asset protection and has seen closeup the messy potential for those who don’t have such protections in place.
It’s precisely why she’s being so rigorous.
“People say, ‘What about love and trust? Why are you being so cynical about the relationship and thinking about it ending before it’s even really started?’ The answer is, well, because I’m a family lawyer and I’m smarter than that,” she said. “There’s no way I’m going to let someone make a claim on my stuff when I know how to prevent it. It would be foolish.”
Even in the fledgling phase of her current relationship, she was wary of making herself vulnerable to a claim. So much so she didn’t let her partner, now 44, leave his toothbrush at her Neutral Bay apartment out of concern it may be used as evidence of a de facto relationship.