When you’re growing up, you’re taught that romantic love is exclusively between two people that devote all their time, energy and love to each other.
This is how I thought relationships worked for a long time and never expected to deviate from this norm.
However, at 21 I found myself dating an older, married, polyamorous man and the way I love has never been the same since.
Watch: How to have better sex. Post continues below.
So how did this happen?
It began from a simple Bumble date... on which he wore his wedding ring.
At first, I was very sceptical as to how open his relationship with his wife was, but he was incredibly honest about his previous relationships and dating patterns.
We easily clicked, and he was the most interesting person I had ever met. The way he explained his approach to love was fascinating, and I was hooked.
I originally justified the relationship to myself by insisting that it was casual and so the polyamory didn’t matter because I wasn’t attached, but it soon became so much more, and I had so much to learn.
I can’t speak for polyamorous people everywhere as everyone has their own versions and definitions on what polyamory means and what works for them.