Should both people in a relationship take financial responsibility for contraception?
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We’ve been living together for 18 months.
For our entire relationship we’ve gone dutch (and that saying will never stop sounding like some weird sex position).
On dates we split the bills, when it comes to rent it’s 50/50 and the same goes for groceries, electricity and internet bills.
Imagine if I had to pay for the entirety of these things we both enjoy. Unfair, right? Absolutely.
But here’s the thing: I am paying entirely for one item that we both enjoy the benefit of – not having babies.
I pay $20 every three months for the contraceptive pill. I have been for years and so have many, many other women.
This week in Mamamia Out Loud, we took to the streets to ask the men whether or not they think it’s fair. (Post continues after audio.)
Over the time my boyfriend and I been together I have spent roughly $400 on the contraceptive pill. Sure, it doesn’t seem like THAT much but for some women that is significant financial burden.
And the money isn’t really even the point. The consequences of our sex life should be shared regardless of who possesses the baby making bits. Financial responsibility – whether that means an abortion or raising a child or preventing getting pregnant in the first place – should be something we share equally.
Of course when I brought up the subject with my boyfriend directly, he laughed. And then said ‘seriously?
Now, he is a lovely and understanding guy, so when sure I pushed the topic further and actually (diplomatically) demanded he chip-in for the Pill, he said yes.
When wondering whether or not my predicament was a common one, I asked my female friends and the women I work with to which I got a surprising mix of responses.