Bullies don’t just disappear.
They grow up, become parents and then instead of torturing children, they bully teachers instead.
A study released in December found that school principals in NSW were five times more likely to be threatened than the general population.
In the old days we used to worry about Mum and Dad eyeing our report card and taking their profound disappointment out on us. I swear the strap quivered with excitement every term break when that yellow envelope appeared in my school bag. My lack of application, my preference for Dr Who over Homework, and skating over study resulted in a stinging slap on the back of the legs, and the shake of the head with the mantra ‘you’ve let me down, you’ve let your mother down, but worst of all you’ve let yourself down.’ Oh the guilt. I’d rather be hit with a strap.
These days, Mum and Dad aren’t whipping their kids to improve their performance, instead they are taking their disappointment to the school yard. To be precise, to the school principal’s office.
You see the poor results of one’s progeny are no longer an individual responsibility. Its not poor parenting, a failure to provide adequate role modelling, nor is it the absence of firm and consistent boundaries.
Poor student performance is now the fault of the school.
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An irate parent barged into my classroom while I was teaching my grade 12 class demanding to speak to me about the essay her daughter had written...it was clearly written by the mother, based on work samples from the student and by the draft that had been submitted. I conferred with the HOD and a colleague before approaching the student discreetly. The mother raged at me until I could barely speak. It was utterly traumatising. The student snuck a text message to her mother during a toilet break and the mother and father raced down to the school at the end of the day. They were pacing up and down the corridor in a menacing manner until my colleague came to alert me and then my HOD. Sly children usually have horrible parents.
OMG! That sounds like a horrible situation!
I do agree with some of this article, however, shaming, blaming and name calling does not support anyone. These parents are not in a conscious thinking part of their brains, they are in the flight/fight part of their brain. There brains have developed in trauma and a traumatized brain hurts other brains. There is no reasoning with anyone in fight or flight. There is no understanding or growth in this part of the brain, and this part of the brain has more power than the conscious part. If we shame them, the remain in fight/flight, and there is no evolving there. The parents need the proper support to make long lasting change, we need to stop putting bandaids on huge, gapping, open, festering wounds. As a family, community and country, we are only as strong as the least common denominator and there is not enough teaching people how to make life altering changes.
I agree. We need to find a way to meet in the middle.