Mamamia’s Five Golden Rules series takes a pervy look into the lives of Australian families. From parents of toddlers to parents of teenagers, the series asks parents to share their golden parenting rules, including the rules for their kids, and rules to just get through each day.
This week, a 52-year-old mother-of-three shares her Five Golden Rules for parenting teenagers.
Meg is a stay-at-home mum to three teenagers. She has a 19-year-old son and 16-year-old boy/girl twins, and they live on a property on the outskirts of Canberra.
Meg is an artist and has always been at home with their three kids, and she loves every minute of it.
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"Lowering your expectations helps for a happier family, but also keeping firm but flexible boundaries has worked a treat," Meg told Mamamia.
"For me, it is important to tell the kids often that you love them and give them affection," she added.
Here are Meg's Five Golden Rules for parenting.
1. Be consistent.
If you want a particular outcome from your children, be consistent with your reaction to their behaviour, and consistent in your expectations.
2. Be honest.
Be honest, it is just a nice way to be. But if you can't be honest on a particular issue, it's okay to say: "I will tell you when you are able to understand the issue better". My kids would say, "But then you are keeping secrets" and I'd say, "I have one secret from you and I'll tell you when I am able, don't worry". Santa was probably the only secret I kept.
Most other things can be explained simply. We all make mistakes, stuff up, get cross, forget; it is part of being human. Saying sorry is owning that, and being honest.