If you were to ask any parent what they want for their children, they’ll likely list qualities like happiness, confidence, self-respect and positive friendships. As a mother of a son and a daughter I want these things too. Yet in a recent survey of 30,000 young Australians from Skillsroad, it appears that many teens are not reaching our parental aspirations.
In fact, 74 per cent of girls (age 15-24) reported feeling levels of stress, sadness or anxiety in the last 12 months which impacted how they study, worked, or lived. This was compared to 54 per cent of boys.
So why are girls not doing so well and what can we do to help?
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It sends a shiver down my spine when I think of my daughter having negative emotions that impact how she lives her life. Sure, some negative emotions are normal and good for us, but no one wants their children experiencing them at a rate that impacts how they live at home, school or work.
When it comes to how boys and girls differ, girls are more likely than boys to experience depression, anxiety and self-consciousness. While there is some evidence to suggest the influence of genetics and hormones is the reason for this, the way we raise girls and the expectations of society also plays a role.
According to the Skillsroad survey, a particular concern to youth mental health issues is a lack of jobs and housing affordability. As parents, educators and carers, there is a huge opportunity and responsibility to help our girls successfully navigate the stressors they face and equip them with the skills to experience positive mental health, reduce negative emotions and move successfully from school into meaningful work.
If you’re like me and want to see this rate decrease, here are some things you can do.
1. Show, don’t tell.
As a working mum, I understand the hustle and the constant juggle. But despite this, we have a responsibility to show our kids that when problems arise, there is always a solution. And that it’s okay to have a bad day and experience negative emotions. If we want our kids to be active problem solvers with quality relationships, we need to show them how to do this by living and demonstrating this kind of life ourselves.