Having a premature baby is heartbreaking. It’s scary and hard and sad and isolating and traumatic, and something that no one deserves to experience. But preemie parents know something that others don’t. They know that, even despite all the pain and struggle and tears and sleepless nights, having a premature baby is still really, really wonderful.
Preemie mums know loss. The loss of the dream of a healthy pregnancy, of a big, pregnant belly and a fat, crying baby, and the experience they thought they were going to have that was going to look like everyone else’s. They know fear and helplessness, wanting so desperately to help their children and take away their pain, wishing they could do anything to make sure they’d come home with them when this was all over. They know what it’s like to imagine their futures and those of their children and know that maybe it will be much harder than they ever imagined.
But they also know other things.