I recently received an invitation to the overseas wedding of a close family member.
The couple does not live overseas, nor do they have any connection with the country in which they are marrying. The invitation came with a note of recommendations for very expensive accommodation, and another note which explained that children are not welcome.
In order for us to go we would not only need to shell out a lot of money which we simply don’t have, but we would also need to either leave our children in Australia with a babysitter, or leave them in a hotel room with a complete stranger in a foreign country. Neither we, nor our children are comfortable with either of those options. We toyed with the idea of just me going and my husband staying home with the kids; however I’d be gone for at least three days. This would mean my husband would need to take three days of annual leave in order to care for the children, or work from home which wouldn’t be fair on either his employer or the kids, as neither would be getting enough of his attention.
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My cousin had his second wedding abroad. He sent the wedding invitations out 4 weeks before the wedding which was in August. I had no leave left to take, and there was no way we could afford to go at the high of the season. He also included a mind boggling expensive wedding list from an exclusive shop. They had given us the message loud and clear that they really didn't care if we went to the wedding or not. My brother, sister and I put together our money and bought them 3 cushions.
Do any of you want to come to our wedding in October lol Just saying - Our decision was based on two majoring factors - our elderly parents - last time they traveled to be with us we nearly lost our Mum and this was heart wrenching - my parents are soon to celebrate 60 years of Marriage in June (Ohhhhhh) so I didn't want to add any strain on them (but I am heart broken that my Dad wont be there to walk me down the aisle and my Mum to see me so happy - anyhow the second reason is to safeguard my H2B from his heartache as I didnt want anyone one from his immediate family to not show up cause that would hurt him and I couldn't bare it - so we thought take it overseas and those that can and want and will be there ... at the end of our day we will have made a covenant with God to be married and blessed anyway ♡ so whos coming lol hugs smile emoticon wink emoticon grin emoticon