This piece has been republished in light of Kate Langbroek’s comments on Deputy Prime Minister Barnaby Joyce’s affair with former staffer Vikki Campion. On Wednesday the radio host publicly condemned women that sleep with married men, saying, “It makes you a rotten person.” While many applauded, not everyone agreed. This is the other side of that conversation, from Jessica Michell…
I was the other woman.
This was despite everyone (society, media, professionals, acquaintances, family and friends) telling me not to. They commonly reference karma. They foresee how the story ends.
And still, I ignored them. I was hoping that we would be the exception to the rule. What I learned most of all, other than not to get involved with a taken man, was that society is still first to blame women. We are still quick to assume the woman was promiscuous or as the witch who enslaved our partners and led them astray.
I foolishly hoped that this would not happen to me. I mistakenly thought people who didn’t know me (or even people who did) would see that I wasn’t the monster.
Here is my story.
I was a colleague to his girlfriend. I knew they had problems because he confided in me. What he described to me was a dysfunctional, controlling and abusive relationship and what I saw was an insecure boy wanting a way out.