The pressures to look a certain way and weigh a certain number aren’t so much significant as absolutely freaking enormous.
And when you’re 17-years-old and female the world seems to throw criticisms at your appearance every way you turn. Every billboard. Every TV ad. Every magazine cover. Every few testosterone-fuelled boys. They all seem to be telling you you’re not good enough.
But imagine how much worse it would be if it weren’t ‘society’ telling you that your looks weren’t up to scratch, but instead your family.
I for one? Would be absolutely crushed.
But that is exactly what now-35-year-old Orley Granot, whose father is a Melbourne-based cosmetic surgeon, has experienced her whole life. In op-eds for Fairfax published last weekend, Orley and her father Ashley Granot, discuss their mutual decision to have her undertake a liposuction procedure at the ripe old age of 17.
Yep, 17. Urgh.
In a wonderful example of Top Notch Parenting, Orley’s father one day tried to broach the subject of her appearance. Orley was (quite understandably) upset, and began to cry. Who could have seen criticism like this coming from dear old dad. She writes:
One hot day, aged 17, I was standing in front of the TV in my undies and a T-shirt when Dad asked me to turn around and started examining my legs and grabbing chunks. “We can get rid of this,” he said. “And some of that.”
Yeah. Cheers for that ‘advice,’ dad.
Almost equally disturbing is that Ashley seemingly implies that his daughter’s career as a successful New York based lawyer can largely be attributed to the liposuction procedure he performed. Rather than crediting his daughter’s intelligence or drive for her considerable achievements, he reckons it’s all because he helped Orley get super skinny and hot. Daddy Ashley says:
I believe we are all beautiful so long as we have a beautiful personality, but if you increase your advantage in the physical department, doors open more easily. I remember one woman who was turned down for job after job, even though she was highly qualified. She had impossible hips, as wide as a doorway. Once liposuction brought her body back into harmony, she was deluged with job offers.
That’s right girls, drop a few kilos through an unnecessary cosmetic procedure and you too can be a barrister!
Despite the backlash he has since faced regarding why he didn’t encourage his daughter to lose weight in a healthy manner (or butt out of the subject entirely), Ashley stands firm. He argues he was simply doing what all parents should do – help their kids be the best they can be: