The concept of opening a relationship is a scary one for many. How do we go about doing this? Where do we find people? Is this going to destroy our relationship?
There is no manual on how to have an open relationship, just as there is no manual on how your life is going to unfold over time.
Until you make a first step into opening it up, you can never know what is going to happen and how you are going to feel.
And the first step is going to be a small one, just like life, one step at a time. No expectations or preconceptions of what is going to happen. This is an area of life you are going to feel your way through.
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I have been in an open relationship for seven years, after 15 years of monogamous marriage. It started off with him exploring his bisexual side. Then we tried threesomes for a while which was fun and exploratory. We met other couples who became lovers and friends. I later desired my own personal adventures so I began seeing a man who I cared about, spending time with him every few weeks. Love bubbled up into the picture and we had to deal with those intense feelings. My partner expanded into meeting other women. All sorts of new emotions came up for me. We continue to play out our different desires as they change, allowing each other the opportunity to learn about desire, sexuality, love. We support each other through the incredible highs and the difficult lows.