I’m 25 and I just got married.
No, I’m not pregnant and I’m not counting on it anytime soon.
No, I’m not settled on spending the rest of my life playing Betty Crocker.
No, I’m not some insecure person that needs a ring to feel like my relationship is solid.
I met someone young. I fell in love. Eight years later he asked those four little words and I cried yes.
Before the wedding I had a lot of people look at me with shock and horror when they heard I’m engaged. Their faces look kind of like this…
Then they say a little something like this…
“Oh my god you’re so young”
Yep Einstein, you got me.
Is there really a perfect age or time to get married? I’ve been through a heck load of stuff with this guy and he knows me really well — to the point that he knows when my monthly cycle is coming better than I do and avoids popping my hormonal bubble and will be more than happy to buy my lady needs. Okay not that cute — but you get the gist here.
We’ve been through a lot. On again-off again. Travelled the world. Got silly matching tattoos that you wake up the next day and realise it wasn’t a dream, only to laugh years later and go “what the hell were we thinking”. Yep we’ve been there.
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I’ve also spent my days crying on the bathroom floor to Adele over this guy — literally. He’s annoyed the shit out of me multiple times as well.
But this is exactly why I’m marrying him. We’re crazy for each other. The highs certainly outweigh the lows and we’re in it together. Not to mention we’re ready to defy the odds of the rising divorce rate in the hope that we will have a lasting marriage filled with lots of great moments, some not so great moments and everything in between.
With that being said, I believe there is no right or wrong age to get married. I have respect for people who say being young and single is the best thing ever. However, I also respect myself and that getting married at my age isn’t taking anything away from my freedom to enjoy and express myself. I may be young but I’m certainly not being immature about it.
“But have you lived your life and done everything you wanted to do?”
My apologies, I forgot the bit where life stops at marriage and I live in a cupboard under the stairs.
We don’t spend dinner dates scrolling on our phones because we’ve run out of stuff to say. Our conversations don’t mundanely stop at —
“How was your day?”
“Oh good thanks.”
Top Comments
Just do what is right for you and your situation. My husbands coworkers got married at 21 and 23 respectively and had three children in their early 20's. They are now 32 and 34 respectively and both have really, really good careers earning almost $500,000 a year annually between them. She only took 3 months of maternity leave with each child and was straight back to work so her career was never majorly affected. Their kids are now 9, 8 and 4.
Preach it girl!! My husband and I got married when he was 22 and I was 23 with every second person commenting on how young we were getting married and that it wouldn't last. My husband still (?!) has complete strangers commenting on how he's too young to be married. Not to mention every second person (family included) asking us every second week if we are pregnant (not even their business if we were) simply because we got married young. Screw what other people think! You don't need to prove your love to them. When you know you know and that's all that matters :)