As soon as we decided we were kinda-sorta ready to be parents, it happened. I’m extra super grateful that Tokki came to us easily (as “easily” as the whole childbirth and raising a newborn into a toddler thing can be, you know).
Nia is the creator of My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Considering my obsession with immigrant stories and memoir, I’m kind of surprised I’ve never seen this film all the way through. Because I didn’t take part in the whole movie sensation at the time, until I read Instant Mom, I didn’t realise the scope of the MBFGW phenomenon. It’s still the highest-grossing rom-com of all time. And it all started with a one-woman play, written and performed doggedly by a single-minded and determined comedic actor.
Nia brought that fierce focus to her desire to start a family, too. When fertility issues blocked her path, she tried in vitro fertilisation…thirteen times.
“I spare people the gory details,” Nia told me when I interviewed her last week for the Globe and Mail. “I don’t go into medical talk but I’m just honest about it, it happened.”
Nia insists she’s private, which may seem strange for someone who likes to “mine” her family “for fun and profit,” as she likes to say. But I get it. When you write material inspired by your own life, you have to be that much more clear about what you will and won’t reveal.
The fact that she tells her previously-untold story (including her struggling actor years, the MBFGW phase and her adoption and family life) is a testament to how much she’s pushing her own boundaries in order to help other families adopt. I admire it very much.