I would have given a kidney if someone would have done any of these things for me after the birth of my second child.
To the people who brought my family food while I was so busy with my baby, you will never know the full extent of my gratitude!
1. Take their other kids somewhere.
Anywhere – just get them out of their house. It’s so much harder when you have to tend to a new baby and to your other kids. So take out her other children as often as you can!
2. Bring food.
And I mean food that comes in a disposable tray or food that you can dump in a pot. Do not bring anything that she'll have to wash and worry about getting back to you. If you just don't cook, bring paper plates and silverware... so if she's forced to cook for herself, at least you'll help her minimise how many dishes she has to clean up.
3. Fork over the money for a stranger to clean the house.
Best. Gift. Ever. But you have to pay for someone else to come clean their house, you can't be the one to do it. There is no way in hell I'd feel comfortable watching a friend clean my house and sort my dirty laundry. Or put things away in my drawers. Who knows what they'd find! But I wouldn't feel guilty lying around in my pajamas, nursing a new baby, while watching a stranger clean up my hot mess.
4. Watch their baby while they take a nap.
Before coming over, you have to say... I'm going to come over to watch your baby while you sleep. It doesn't work if you just show up and say you're going to do it, because then she'll play the "oh-no-I'm-fine" game.
5. Recognise signs of postpartum depression.
Although it's common for women to have "Baby Blues," it can quickly turn into postpartum depression. If you begin to notice that a new mum does not really want to take care of herself or her baby, encourage her or her family to seek additional help. Be on the lookout for telltale signs that mums might need a little extra help.
6. Get them out of the house.
Sometimes both mum and baby just need to get out of the house. Find a way to encourage everyone to get some fresh air, even if it's just to take a walk around the neighbourhood.