Here’s a thing: Grayson Bruce, a 9-year-old boy in the US, was being bullied for wearing a My Little Pony backpack to school.
When the school noticed the bullying taking place, they acted quickly.
They told the student in question that they wanted the bullying to stop. They told the student in question that the bullying was an awful distraction. They told the student in question that their behaviour needed to change or they would be punished.
Sounds fine, until you learn the student in question who got that stern talking-to was not the bully.
The student who was told he needed to change his behaviour was the victim, 9-year-old Grayson Bruce.
Yes, a trigger.
After complaining to his teachers that he was being physically and verbally tormented by other students in his class, Grayson was basically told it was his own fault. For tempting them.
Excuse me, School Officials, but I’d like to call bullshit.
When a 9-year-old kid is being physically and verbally bullied at school, you don’t solve the problem by telling the victim to change. That just legitimises the behaviour of the bullies. You tell the bullies to change. You ban the bullying, not the freaking backpack.
You say “Hey, kids, you may not understand this right now, but the way you’re treating that boy is heartless and awful and kind of makes you look like nasty people. We’re going to take some time to figure out why you think it’s okay to treat another human that way, teach you why it’s wrong, and then if you keep doing it, you’ll be punished until you stop.”