The five rules for visiting a mum of more than one child.


Having more than one child is hard. Yes, I know your first is hard. I’ve been there. When you’re a first time mum, it seems impossible. Sometimes you literally have no idea what you’re doing. But more than one bub brings a whole new world of perspective. If by any chance the eldest is taken off your hands, you feel like you’re on holiday!

When I became a new mum for the second time over it was a different experience. Still as amazing and wonderous, yes. But life as I knew it suddenly became a whole lot more hectic. I can only imagine it’s the same, if not worse, for those having their third, fourth and beyond…

They’ve just given birth, and most likely thought a few if not all of these. Post continues after video.

I feel like multiple children give a whole new meaning to the word ‘busy’. Time to yourself is very rare. You have to learn to get your head around the needs of multiple children simultaneously.

Accordingly, the needs of such a mum are many! The way I see it, if you’re visiting a mum who has just had another baby, you’d be well advised to observe the below rules.

Bring gifts

And not presents for the baby. Chances are, we have enough onesies. Bring wine or coffee. Actually, both. Not to mention cake. Sugar, caffeine and alcohol are what I’m surviving on right now.

'Bring gifts.' Image supplied. 

Don't expect me to entertain.

I’m not going to be in good form. I won’t be funny. Or be properly dressed. Don't stare at my milk stained t-shirt and full of dry hair shampoo top knot. And don’t expect food or drinks. The best I can do is maybe a box of biscuits out of the cupboard and a tea.


Expect to see boobs.

First time around, I actually covered up while breastfeeding. This time, I’m trying to get on babe on the boob while giving the other vegemite on toast or stopping him from hurling himself off the TV cabinet. So they’ll be out, I guarantee you. Deal with it, but don’t stare.

Give my other kids attention.

It’s not all about the baby. My other kids are adjusting too. Smile and tolerate any bad behavior. Be nice. But not ‘I’m blatantly lying’ nice. Don't call my toddler 'spirited', I swear he gets a kick out of it.

Please be nice to my toddler. Image supplied. 

Arrive on time

Many mums are like me and have their kids on a schedule (well, we try). So if I say come over at such and such a time, you better be there. Because your window between nappy changes, feeds, sleeps and much needed park outings for the older ones to blow off steam are small, my friend. Or, pitch in with all of the above. Or better still, take over while I sleep!

So there you have it. Bear these words in mind, or don’t say I didn’t warn you when the mum in question unleashes the sleep-deprived wrath!

Actually, maybe don't come over at all. Say a quick hi and then take my toddler out instead. Or the baby. Or me for a stiff drink. Or give me a massage voucher. Come to think of it, maybe all of the above!