Why is Goodes supposed to ‘man up’ while it’s OK for Fanning to show vulnerability?
Yet, after admitting he “needs help” and is experiencing horrific nightmares, today there has not been a single word written in the media calling him a wimp, complainer or urging him to ‘man up”.
Are surfing fans are more empathetic and well, sensible, than the AFL’s? Because when Adam Goodes says he is emotionally wounded, damaged and disturbed by the thousands of fans booing every time he handles a football, or the taunts of “Abo” and “Ape”, the proud Indigenous player constantly cops he is, according to many, a big wuss who should put up or shut up.
Which has led me to wonder why, is Goodes supposed to “man up” while it’s okay for Fanning to show vulnerability? Is it per chance that every Australian can relate to the terror of a shark but only a minority understands what it’s like to be hated for your colour, your looks and ethnicity?
Not that I am putting Fanning down – I am most definitely not. In fact, I applaud him for admitting he needs help because here is salient fact – Australian men need to acknowledge mental health issues more. What’s more, they need to seek help and tell others they are doing so.
After a weekend of support with the #IStandWithAdam campaign, Adam Goodes is preparing to return to the field. (Post continues after gallery).
Just look at the stats. According to the Black Dog Institute, men are at greatest risk of suicide but least likely to seek help. In 2010 men accounted for over three-quarters (76.9%) of deaths from suicide however, an estimated 72% of males don’t seek help for mental disorders. Other groups, including Indigenous Australians, people in rural and remote areas, gay, lesbian bisexual and transgender people and children are also at greatest risk (Considering Goodes is male and indigenous, it is a blessing he’s still with us).
While rates of depression are slightly higher in women (one in six or 17 per cent) compared to one in 10 for men, the general consensus is that men are reluctant to admit they have a problem and, as such, the stats could well be flawed and the amount of men suffering much higher than estimated.