I have been separated for a few months now and I’ve been testing the waters with online dating and let me say this very clearly I DESPISE IT. I went on Tinder for a whole 24 hours to find out what the hype was about, you hear of Tinder success stories and that it’s more than just hooking up. I wanted to find out for myself.
Tinder is the most superficial and judge-mental form of dating I’ve ever seen, you create a very simple account with a few hand selected photos which are of course the hottest photos of you that exist… even if they are from 10 years ago when you first hit puberty. This isn’t like Facebook where you can creep through all stages of someone’s life and get a whole picture of who they are. In 3 seconds, based on a picture you need to determine if this guy is hot enough to proceed… what about his personality? What about his life and who he is? Will he treat me well?
Nope, just 3 seconds to tap into how vain you are and work out if you think they are hot enough. I swiped right on 10 guys in total and received an instant message from all of them (totally not bragging, it’s hard to get rejected on Tinder) but this instantly felt wrong. It mainly felt wrong because I’d forgotten how to flirt and what the hell do we chat about late at night on a Friday night and can I handle 10 fake conversations? The lead in question was always the same too ‘Hi how are you?’... Bad question. Whenever you ask someone how they are you don’t expect the real response ‘Oh hey, I’ve just separated from my husband and I’m realising that I need to shave my legs, act like a lady and go on dates again... And I don’t know if you’re a creep.” So the tone of conversation is off to a fake start already ‘Good thanks, how are you?’... yawn.
Tinder can be a minefield... clearly. Post continues after video...