BY ALISSA WARREN.
When Mary Coustas speaks, your heart bursts.
Because her remarkable journey to parenthood speaks to every parent who has struggled.
The 50 year-old comedian-turned-author has spoken about in a series of Show And Tell videos the stillbirth of her daughter Stevie and the arrival of her daughter, Jamie, now six months old in a series of interviews with Show n’ Tell.
Speaking about Stevie’s birth, she says she just knew she wasn’t going to make it, “I knew. I woke up and thought today is the today we’re going to make history for our family. No crane, no rocket could’ve lifted me out of what I knew”.
In the interview, Mary tells about how her waters broke at 22 weeks, while her husband, George was overseas.
She waited and waited for the inevitable.
“So, there I was with a compromised child and I was still praying and I was still hoping [that] I could drag it out to 28 weeks … it was really difficult and there’s plenty of hours in every night where there’s no nurse, no visitors and it’s just silence … It was just hideous. The most difficult thing”.
Mary just knew it was a matter of time before her precious baby would arrive long before her due date. It meant she was forced to make some tough decisions. She says, “if the baby comes out at a certain week – 24 or 25 weeks – you have to make the decision as to whether you ask the doctors to revive or not and if you do … are you doing what’s best for the baby?”
When her baby was ready to be born, Mary was 24 weeks pregnant. She was told her baby wouldn’t survive. The strength at which Mary speaks about her experience is phenomenal. “[I was ] wounded to the point of no recovery with that news. But I had a job to do. So I had to push it to the side and get on with it”.