At the beginning of a relationship love can feel like fire and ice. It’s visceral, your mind can race, your body can seize up, you can behave in ways you never expected you would. It’s a rollercoaster completely based on what’s in your head, not what’s happening in reality. It’s fun and crazy and brilliant and big. It washes over you and through you and you can’t get enough of each other and then…
… Well, then you are together for a while. A long while and you try to ignore those tiny little black hairs like squashed, anorexic ants on the bathroom sink and you put toenail clippers in a really, really subtle spot like on his pillow and you wish he ate fish. Why can’t he love seafood like you do?
What’s the last text message you received from your partner? Post continues after video.
People change, love changes, relationships change over time. Or do they?
We’ve asked women and men who have been together for ten to 54 years about what little – or big – things they have learned about love over time.
And, yes, the men did get straight to the point.
People say (and whether there is any truth in it) that there are probably five or six people to whom you could be happily married. My litmus test is that I have never met anyone I could imagine in my husband’s place. I have discovered that what had drawn us together when we were so young were still the planks on which our marriage grew. Physical attraction of course (even today my husband praises my faded looks to the bemusement of others). Trust and support: These are two qualities you might not have high on your priority list in the heady days of a blossoming romance but they become two big building blocks as the years move on. And above all humour. We have always been each other’s best audience. – Anne, married 54 years.
When it comes to marriage be happy with a 7 out of ten. – David, married 31 years.
Communicate honestly – but with kindness. – Peter, married 36 years.
When was the moment you knew your partner was the one? The Mamamia staff confess when they knew below. Post continues after video.