Picture this: You're sitting in a luxury hotel room. The lamps are dimmed to that perfect soft hue, and the bed linen is crisp and white. There are rose petals strewn over the pillows.
For weeks you've been waiting for this encounter.
Anticipation. Excitement. Nerves. All-over-body-tingles.
The planning beforehand has been meticulous. You've been going over the details of what you're looking for, how you would like the session to go and all the things you're going to do with... him.
But this isn't the sort of session you may be thinking of. Oh no, because you're not here for pleasure, you're here for answers. Specifically, answers for the burning questions you've always wanted to ask male escorts. And much to your delight, four have just walked into the room to answer every single one of them.
So sit back and relax, and enjoy all the answers to your burning questions for male sex workers right here, right now.
Mitch Larsson.
Image: @mrmitch_larsson.
Instagram @mrmitch_larsson. Website here. Escorting here.
How long have you been in the escorting business?
It's been almost four years now.
How much do you charge/what are your rates?
My rates start at $1100 for a minimum three-hour booking, with additional hours costing $350 per hour. Overnight bookings are $4400 and I also have rates for longer bookings and trips away.
What does a regular work day look like for you?
I find myself in contact with clients pretty much seven days a week, not only to follow up on enquiries from new clients but also to check in with my long-term clients to see how they are. If I've seen someone new, I'll also contact them the following day to make sure they are still feeling great, as their first time can often be very emotional.
I also like to talk to new clients before we meet for the first time so there may also be a few calls involved as well. If I have a booking that day, I'll usually take around an hour or so to prepare (physically and mentally) to feel as attractive as possible and to make sure they get the best of me.
How would you describe the demographics of your clients?
I'm happy to see any ladies over 30, but generally my clients are in their late 30s to early 60s. Roughly half are in relationships, but many contact me having recently separated from long-term partners. Their occupations vary, but I've noticed a large proportion work in positions that require them to care for others, e.g. healthcare, counselling, childcare etc.
What are your clients looking for when they book a meeting with you?
Quite a few look to me to help them regain their sexual confidence after long periods without intimacy with many having already attempted to meet someone online. Almost all clients want to have sex at some point throughout the booking, but not before we have had a chance to learn all about each other. Ultimately, my clients are looking to be loved and acknowledged, really.
Sexually speaking, is there anything you won’t do with a client, or that you consider off limits?
I make it pretty clear in my advertisements the sort of experience I provide so I don't usually get enquiries that are outside my comfort zone. That said, I do draw the line at anything involving pain or humiliation, or any scenarios that involve voyeurism or 'cuckolding' with a third party. I also only see clients one-on-one, i.e. no couples or group bookings.
Have you ever had your boundaries tested on the job?
Absolutely, but not in a physical sense. I'm quite open with most clients about my personal life and occasionally that can lead to conversations that make me uncomfortable. I've had situations where clients have offered unsolicited parenting advice or advice about my future and it can ruin the mood quite quickly if I don't say something about my discomfort early on.
Also – and this is rare, as most people are very understanding – but I've also had some clients try to negotiate my rates or even tell me they want to keep seeing me, but for free. It's hard to reignite the passion after those sorts of discussions and sadly, it often ends up with us never seeing each other again.
What is the most unusual request that you've had?
I haven't had anything too strange asked of me, but when I first started I had several requests from men for financial domination or 'findom'. Findom is where one person (the 'pay-pig') seeks another person to dominate them by ordering them to deposit money or to go shopping for them for the sake of humiliation. The pay-pig asks for nothing at all in return, and the amount of contact they have with each other is negotiated in advance. I never followed up on those enquiries though as I thought they couldn't possibly be serious, but I've since learned that it does actually happen!
What is the most requested thing you get asked to do?
Cuddle. My clients love it when I hold them and gently stroke their hair. And I love it just as much.
What is your approach to dating and romantic partners outside of work?
I tried online dating a while ago, but I found that most women weren't comfortable with what I do – which is certainly understandable – and on many occasions I just gave up before telling them. I sometimes think that even if someone were to seriously date me, they'd quickly become frustrated with my work schedule and the amount of time I spend maintaining and expanding my business by talking to other women.
I've met a few wonderful and kind sex workers who I've fantasised about having a serious relationship with, but I've found that they are just as busy, if not busier than I am, so it's usually pretty difficult for us to get together, anyway. I'm pretty realistic now and don't think I'll pursue any sort of exclusive relationship until it's time to retire.
How do you sleep with women you're not attracted to?
I think for most people, physical attraction makes up a very small part of what makes a person appealing. I've seen clients who have been so stunning that I can hardly believe my luck, only for them to be so cold and clinical, that I've had to end the booking early after little more than a kiss.
Conversely, some women I meet are the complete opposite to the type of woman I'd usually be attracted to, and I may find myself starting to panic that I'm not going to be able to perform and that I'll let her down. By lowering my own barriers, however, and by sharing some of my own faults and vulnerabilities, I find most clients open up and do the same, and we begin to relax and flirt as two regular adults would. I'm always aware of my role of course, but by the time we get to the bedroom, my aim is for the two of us to feel like excited new lovers as opposed to a paying client and professional escort. For me, it's also the best way to encourage my body to respond so I can keep my new partner happy.
Bad Boy Zeus.
Image: Instagram @badboy.zeus / @japs_photography.
Only Fans @badboyzeus. Instagram @badboy.zeus. Escorting here.
How long have you been in the escorting business?
I have been in the business for a couple of months now! I am also a male stripper/topless waiter. If you haven't seen me perform, you are missing a lot!
How much do you charge/what are your rates?
My rates vary depending on the job and request. Often, the price goes from $500 an hour to $1200 for two hours.
What are your clients looking for when they book a meeting with you?
One thing you can be certain of is that when I walk into the room, you'll be feeling hot under the collar. My mission is to fulfil a woman's deepest darkest desires. I have my ways of warming the hearts of every lady in town.
I often get asked if I work with cuckold couples, and the answer is absolutely – I mainly work with couples and single, heterosexual women. I do let a client's husband in the room during a cuckold session, but only if he's willing to pay additional fees.
Can clients see a photo of your 'package' before booking a meeting?
'Are we able to see a photo of your package and can you describe it to us?' – I get asked this question a lot. Where I promote my escorting services does not allow escorts to display full nudity for males. But clients can sign up to my Only Fans if they want to see my package before booking me.
What is the most unusual request that you’ve had?
I once got asked by a couple wanting to book a session with me if they could record the encounter and then upload that onto a porn website!
What is your approach to dating and romantic partners outside of work?
Outside of this line of work, I am single – by choice.
Mr. Jake.
Image: mrjake.com.au.
Only Fans @mr.jake. Website here. Escorting here.
How long have you been in the escorting business?
I have been escorting for around six years now, starting in 2014 with a two-year hiatus away from the industry in the middle.
How much do you charge/what are your rates?
All my rates are on my website. My standard one-hour booking for a 'boyfriend experience' which includes full service is $500 per hour. I also offer sensual massage rates at $350 per hour – this doesn't include full service, along with overnights that are 12+ hours which is in the excess of the $4,000 mark.
What does a regular work day look like for you?
My 'work' tends to start later than your average job, as you can imagine but normally my morning is mostly admin and scheduling along with a PT session at the gym. I try and arrange my clients from 2pm onwards with hourly bookings of three to five hours or it can be a couple of clients in the day. It all comes down to when the client(s) want to see you.
How would you describe the demographics of your clients?
I would tend to say most are divorcees, some are married, others are looking for fun and a spark in their life. Age-wise I would average it around 30 to 60 years old. There is no 'type' when it comes to your average client, but I would say that's the main bulk of them!
What are your clients looking for when they book a meeting with you?
To be made to feel sexy, appreciated and a priority! Then again, some of my clients are extremely independent and specifically just want some fun. I can fit into both role types with ease, but you need to be open about what you're looking for, for the experience to flourish.
Sexually speaking, is there anything you won't do with a client, or that you consider off limits?
I do have boundaries, but they're basic things – safe sex practise, no dildos going where you know where (on me) which tends to bring out a laugh with my clients.
Have you ever had your boundaries tested on the job?
Sexually, no. Mentally/personally, yes. I've had a few encounters of clients wanting more or expecting more, or having been a tad invasive of personal details. I am strong enough to remain professional at all times and that's held me in good stead throughout the years.
What is the most unusual request that you've had?
Where do I start?! Only recently I got an enquiry from a woman who asked me if I was keen on doing role play with her during a sexual encounter – she wanted to play out a 'mother/son' fantasy, each to their own I guess. The booking never went ahead just FYI!
What is the most requested thing you get asked to do?
BFE – Boyfriend experience, which can be dinner, drinks, or both. Normally two to three hour bookings are more common, so it's not rushed! But typically these are the most frequent. Often full-see vids (nude videos) are ordered off the menu too.
What is your approach to dating and romantic partners outside of work?
I can't say I date regularly, but that's mainly down to the fact I tour so much and my schedule is hectic! This month alone I'm onto my fifth city already (currently leaving Perth) but there's still instances where I've been on dates – very casually as I feel it's not something I can offer long term. But I'm upfront about what I do and what my life is like. That way there are no shocks!
What do your clients look like? What if you're not attracted to a client?
Clients vary look-wise. But I never have issues not being attracted to a client, the connection I focus more on. I feel as a professional and being paid for a service the responsibility lies on me to bring out that attraction in both of us.
Will you ever stop doing sex work?
I have goals and plans to step away (not fully), but I'd say more so by the time I'm 40 (I'm 34 years old at the moment), as I want to focus on a career counselling teenagers in mental health and other aspects which I plan to do between 40-60 years old.
Ryan James.
Image: Instagram @ryanjamessydney / @evelynhuntphoto.
Instagram @ryanjamessydney. Only Fans @ryanjamessydney. Escorting here.
How long have you been in the escorting business?
I'll be celebrating ten years in the adult industry at the end of this year! I did a brief stint as a topless waiter/stripper before starting escorting and adult films mid 2013.
How much do you charge per hour/what are your rates?
My rates start at $600 per hour, although I have a special rate for first-time clients which is $600 for two hours. I also have rates for longer bookings – e.g. a four-hour dinner date for $1,800, or a weekend away for $10,000.
What does a regular work day look like for you?
It's impossible to define a regular work day as every day is different. A busy week could mean flying to four cities in four days! I could be with one lady for a week straight or even longer. I generally only see one client a day as it allows me to focus my time and energy on them. I do lots of dinner dates and evening bookings, so lots of time spent out at restaurants getting to know my clients over a great meal.
How would you describe the demographics of your clients?
The demographic of my clients is incredibly varied. There is no single common factor, besides that I only see women. They can have any job, and are single, divorced, and retired. Plus, from various religious and cultural backgrounds. I've seen clients living with a disability, other sex workers, couples where the husband is organising a treat for his wife. Virgins where they decide how and when they want to lose their virginity. There are also those clients who have dealt with trauma in the past, domestic violence from a partner or sexual trauma. In those situations, a safe environment where they can feel in control is hugely important and can be a step in the healing process for them.
What are your clients looking for when they book a meeting with you?
There are a huge range of reasons and desires my clients have when they come to see me. A sexual experience on their terms is part of it, however a good connection and chemistry is hugely important as well. My job is essentially about creating a safe environment for someone to enjoy the experience they want. Sometimes it's a couple of hours in a hotel room. Or a nice date out for the evening. Or a companion for a holiday, to enjoy the various adventures that life has to offer.
Sexually speaking, is there anything you won’t do with a client, or that you consider off limits?
The vast majority of requests I've said yes to. I typically offer a boyfriend experience so don't get many extreme requests. When I do the discussion of boundaries and consent is important, the same as it is with anyone else.
Have you ever had your boundaries tested on the job?
Many times. Most clients are absolutely lovely and genuinely nice women. Some however will refuse to take no for an answer and will do anything to get what they want. From cyber stalking, to gaslighting, to various manipulation tactics. I've noticed over the years it's the same kind of behaviour that domestically violent partners exhibit. It's all about control and doing anything they can to get what they want, regardless of the other person's desires or wellbeing.
What is your approach to dating and romantic partners outside of work?
There's a core concept to dating in general that many people seem to miss: Don't pursue someone that has no interest in dating you. Various literature has romanticised this but in reality it leads to unhealthy obsessions. It's a two-way street, many women have zero desire in dating an escort. I have zero desire to date anyone that has an issue with what I do. There is a huge community of people where working in the adult industry is a non-issue. Whether it's others in the adult industry, or those in the swinging, poly, or kink scenes.
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