I can’t make it this weekend…
I have to work overtime.
I’m super tired.
I just don’t have time, I’m so busy.
No, this isn’t a standoffish partner. It’s friends in general (after the age of 25, that is).
25, it seems, is our socialising crescendo. It’s the time in our lives when we’re in most regular contact with our countless, beautiful, we’re-actually-soul-sisters friends.
After 25? The friendship tree gets pruned. Big time. Fewer friends, more family time, and a withdrawal from casual friendships.
This is all according a joint study between Aalto University and the University of Oxford. The findings were revealed through the analysis of call records from three million mobile phone users in Europe.
The research looked to the differences in mobile phone usage between genders and across age groups. It attempted to ban data from business calls, so purely social behaviour could be analysed in isolation.
“Our main finding is that the maximum number of connections for both males and females occurs at the age of around 25,” the report states. “During this early phase, males appear to be more connected than females. After this, the number of [contacts] decreases steadily for both genders, although the decrease is faster for males than for females.”
“On-tabling” our issues with friends in Girls. Post continues after video…
The optimist in me was hoping the data, which was obtained in 2007, might not extend to today’s world of Facebook Messaging, Snapchat, Viber, Google Hangouts, etc.
I adopted a truly scientific method and asked around. My optimism is a fool.
If it’s not people having kids, it’s people moving away/overseas or settling down with serious relationships. The catchups start to dwindle – not because you don’t want to see each other but because it’s so hard to find a mutually convenient time – one 27-year-old explained.