Try before you buy.
It’s the relationship conundrum that has haunted young couples for decades: when is the right time to move in together?
Do it too soon, and it could be a death wish upon your previously carefree union; leave it too late and you could spook your partner with commitment issues.
In a (yet another) article chewing the fat on pre-marriage cohabitation, HuffPost is today giving us the heads up that whilst the marriage rate among young people has fallen dramatically, so have divorce rates.
“Australian Institute of Family researcher Lixia Qu said a big reason for the fall was that more couples were living together without being married.” – Huffington Post
So no-one is getting married or divorced any more because they are living with their Prince Charming before marrying him therefore having the chance to realise after two months of living together that he’s actually a total pig who compulsively collects Pokemon cards and leaves his beard trimmings in the bathroom sink.
In short: we’re all dodging a massive shitty-marriage bullet by going for the try-before-you-buy option.
But if your relationship is made to last, then it will take more than leaving the toilet seat up to shake your foundations. Still not convinced?
Here are our top 5 reasons that you should Rent (a place together) Before You Buy and get married etc etc etc.
Reason #1: There is a difference between gross habits, and gross habits.
When you first move in together with your partner, it’s good behaviour all round. You make the bed every morning, you pretend to really like broccoli, and anything involving the toilet is handled discreetly and not discussed. Fast forward a few months, and all bets are off. By this stage you will know what you’re dealing with, and whether it pushes your limits. I once dated a man who made me rub his stomach when he was constipated and I swear to you I still have not recovered.
Reason #2: If you can’t handle 7 days a week, y’all probably can’t handle ‘forever’.
It’s shocking, I’ll give you that. They are there every night when you go to sleep, and there every morning when you wake up. You will eat together, food shop together, shower together, and work out together. Whilst it’s important to enforce private time in a serious relationship (when I say, ‘go to the pub with the boys’, I promise I actually do mean, ‘go to the pub with the boys’), you will still get a taste as to what it’s like to share a life together. And a toilet. Because if you can share a bathroom, you’re gonna make it, kids.