It’s one of the most devastating sentences a woman can hear.
“Your baby has no heartbeat.”
But for Libby Trickett, it wasn’t all sorrow and grief (although that certainly consumed her for a long time.)
Instead of letting the miscarriage of her first baby break her, the Olympic swimmer learned a valuable lesson from her loss. And she says she is grateful for that.
Listen: Libby talks about the experience on the I Don’t Know How She Does It podcast.
Libby lost her baby two years ago in the eighth week of her pregnancy.
“It was a very early miscarriage but you still feel sadness,” she says.
Suffering from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, the 32-year-old always knew she might have trouble getting pregnant, but the miscarriage itself came as a shock.
Fortunately, she had joy in her future, with the birth of her now eight-month-old daughter Poppy just a year away. But first, she had to make it through the sadness.
It’s sometimes hard to put into words what motherhood is. Yes, it’s joyful. Yes, it’s a blessing. Yes, it is without a doubt an absolute miracle. But it’s also hard and lonely. It can be isolating and bone achingly tiring. I found the transition to motherhood tough. Hell, I still can find it bloody tough at times 19 months in but I wanted to share my story in case it helps another mother out there that might be finding things hard right now. Check out the @mamamiaaus podcast by @alissawarren. Link in bio. And mum’s, out there, just remember you are not alone!! If you’re having a tough time, reach out for help. We are all just trying to do our best xx
“Motherhood really does start with pregnancy,” Libby says.
“You immediately feel that protection over that little being, even though they’re a little seed at that point, they’re no more than a little heartbeat.
“We saw that heartbeat and I immediately starting fantasising and imagining what they might become. I didn’t know if it was a boy or a girl. I didn’t know whether they would have blonde hair or be a brunette like Poppy is. But you start to dream and to imagine what this person, this little being, might become.
“I think that really shocked me, how attached I became,” she tells Alissa Warren.