Author Kathy Lette has written a breathtakingly beautiful post about her love for her son. She pleas for society to stop “forcing autistic people” to act normal, and instead she asks that we “help them to become their best autistic selves by focusing on what they can do instead of what they can’t.”
Lette, 57, is a mother of two children – Julius, 25 and Georgina, 23.
It’s her son, Julius who is the focus of a Facebook post Lette wrote about his battle to be accepted as a person with autism and the incredible achievements he has made.
Kathy Lette: You might as well have ripped my heart out of my chest and stomped on it. Image via Facebook.
She writes “When my autistic son was nine he came home with a sign sticky-taped to his back saying “Kick me I’m a retard.” Tearing up, he stammered, “The kids call me a retard… What is a retard?” You might as well have ripped my heart out of my chest and stomped on it. Going to school now became his second favourite thing, after stubbing his toe repeatedly until it went gangrenous.”
She says that Jules, as she calls him, had an encyclopedic knowledge of the Beatles, Buddy Holly and Shakespeare by the age of eight, but that the school system did not suit him.
“The only subject at which he excelled in class became ‘phoning in sick’. Being put on detention for misinterpreting homework and constantly belittled by classmates meant that school became little more than a master class in low self-esteem. “
“By high school, while most students were striving to learn math and grammar; Jules was striving to make himself invisible.”
Kathy Lette and her son, Jules. Via Getty.
Lette, who first wrote about autism in her fictional book, The Boy Who Fell To Earth, says that while 99 per cent of young people with autism would like to have a job, just 15 per cent are in full-time and paid employment.
“Although wackily bright and quirkily charming, the only future I could envisage for Jules was living in a bedsit on benefits.”
“These daily rejections is why it’s vital to tell your special needs child that they really are special” she says.
Kathy Lette talks about her son on Studio 10. Post continues after video..
Kathy says: “There’s no Owner’s Manual for parents of autistic kids, but it’s imperative to find what they’re good at and encourage it. It doesn’t matter if it’s moth wing fluctuations, igneous rock formations or Tibetan nose fluting – because you never know what their obsession could lead to.
"My own son wanted to study acting. I was dubious – how could someone with autism empathise with a character’s complex emotional nuances? Yes, he knew more about most actors than their own mothers, but was it possible to put the artistic into autistic? “