We run literally thousands of posts on Mamamia over a 12 month period and we’ve collated the most popular 20 of 2014 to count down as we bring in the new year. Here is number six… did you fall into Kate-mania?
So Kate mania is upon us. Every woman I know is beside herself about the Duchess of Cambridge and her visit to Australia – what she wears, what her son wears, where she goes. These are some of the things I hear women say about Kate every day:
“She’s so normal.”
“She’s so classy.”
“She’s such a good mum.”
“I just want to be her friend.”
“She seems so nice.”
“She’s just like me.”Kate Middleton and Prince William.
I have nothing against Kate. I am sure that she is nice, that she is a good wife, a good daughter, a good person, and of course, a great mother. But I do have a problem with her being held up as an ideal of exemplary womanhood, a wonderful role model for our daughters, an antidote to the Kim Kardashians of the world.
Because this outpouring of adoration is for a woman whose job description is basically:
“Have some babies.”
“Don’t rock the boat.”
History is littered with cautionary tales of women who did not follow the above script. One word in particular springs to mind: Fergie.
I know, I know, the royals have learned so many lessons since the Diana-Fergie days. Kate and Wills, the story goes, are a love match. I’m sure they are, but it was a love match for which a woman had to to sacrifice her freedom, her youth, her independence and, many would argue, her personality. To marry the man of her dreams, she had to change who she was, give up her privacy, paid employment, ensure her 20s were entirely scandal-free and lose half her body weight. This is not something I would wish for my daughter.