You know that TV show Seven Year Switch? A few weeks ago my husband and I were watching it together and I remarked that Jackie, who was dating Tim on the show and did a trial partner switch with another couple in order to rebuild their relationship, was too bossy and told Tim what to do a lot. My husband just looked at me and raised his eyebrows. It got me thinking – am I like that?
The answer is yes. Most likely, anyway.
Jackie and Tim, via their Instagram
My husband hasn't been around much the last few months as he's been travelling for work. So he really doesn't know what to do with our toddler and baby these days.
It means that even though I’m doing all of the parenting hard-yards during the week I end up doing all of it on the weekends too.
We have two children aged two and under, so it’s full-on to say the least. There are a LOT of logistics.
Feeding takes SO long. Just one of the logistics. Image via iStock.
I guess I just expect my husband to know how to do everything I do. To be alert for the dishwasher to finish. To know to sterilise the baby’s bottles ahead of the next feed. To know how much water to boil at the start of each day. To just know when either child has done a poo. To know the time constraints of having to be home for nap time…
Not so much. This weekend my frustration was very real. I was SO tired from doing the solo parenting thing for so long now that I hit a huge wall. I had a cold and was sore all over just from the physical strain of carting two kids around (one who is a clingy toddler that is refusing to walk lately – what’s with that?!).
I just needed to lie or sit down, you know? So, I found myself telling him what to do. A lot.
It wasn’t a conscious thing. I just needed help. I left him to it one bath time – and ended up going to his rescue when five minutes into it both kids were crying.