In the “naughty crowd” of four-letter sex words, porn divides opinion like its pal ‘anal’ and has the shock value of its friend ‘c**t’. But it has no letters in common with cheating.
Earlier this year, my boyfriend had lower back surgery that left him bed-bound for two months and sent our sex life on sabbatical, destination: chastity. Of the many things he couldn’t risk doing, boning was up there with breakdancing.
Is it wrong to be getting off to someone if they aren’t your partner?
During the first week, his medication was so numbing that not even a visit from Victoria’s Secret angels in nurse uniforms could have raised an erection. The other seven weeks were an exercise in how not to die of frustration, and two things got him through: completing Playstation games, which occupied his hands for most of his time awake, and watching porn, which occupied his hands for less time – but probably had an even more satisfying completion rate.
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I told this to a friend who enquired how he was getting along. Concerned, she asked if I minded.
I said yes: Playstation games cost $68 each and she wouldn’t believe the rate he was getting through them.
That, of course, wasn’t the aspect of my boyfriend’s regression into teenage-boy behaviour that she was uncomfortable with. Internet forums are awash with porn-related debates that move beyond the industry’s ethics, into how personally we should take someone using it.
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If watching porn is just harmless "fantasy," then it stands to reason that creating it is also harmless "fantasy." If it is not real, then the guys and gals who view it should have no problem whatsoever with their partners creating it. If you have a problem with your partner getting off on sharing nude selfies, masturbation videos, and so forth with total strangers, you are a hypocrite. Just because you masturbate to strangers in private, that doesn't make it any less "real" for your partner. You are using other people to get off. Period. The fact that they are not in the room is of little consequence to the partner who is deprived of your time and sexual energy as a result.
Women who don't like porn are not insecure, that's the tripe women come up with when they put up with it in their relationships. There is many numerous reasons why porn is not constructive