You’d think that by now, people would see them as normal. But it’s not considered “normal”. People still look at or speak about interracial couples strangely.
Apparently, your skin colour MUST be the same for a couple to be genuinely compatible. It’s often overlooked, forgotten about and simply ignored by the couples themselves, as well as everyone around them. It’s like we’ve all become immune to it.
Rather than interracial couples being “normal”, negative and uncomfortable reactions to them seems to be the norm. But Arkansas-based photographer and professor Donna Pinckley has brought this all to light with her series “Sticks and Stones”.
She’s photographed a number of interracial couples and asked them to write down an insult they’ve been given from someone else, stranger or family. And some of the insults hurled at them are just gross. But not unfamiliar. I’ve heard people say it before. I’ve seen the way some people look at interracial couples.
Some of the comments include, “Wouldn’t you rather date someone your own race?” and “What’s wrong with American women? Do you not like American women?”
It’s heartbreaking to read some of the comments. And they come from people both from ethnic backgrounds and who are Caucasian. So it shows that interracial relationships still have a long way to go before being accepted and not considered out of the ordinary.
And of course, there are the stereotypes attached to interracial couples. One couple, an Asian woman and Caucasian man, wrote “all she wants from you is your green card”.
To be honest, in my relationship with my boyfriend, we’ve never been subject to blatant comments like these. But certainly, more nuanced comments and looks have been thrown my way.