There are so many things I loved when I saw a preview of the movie Instant Family.
I felt the love between the main characters Pete and Ellie Wagner (Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne), and the bond they worked hard to create with their three foster kids who form their “instant family”.
But one of the best – and funniest – aspects of the movie is the crucial role played by Pete’s and Ellie’s mums – their kids’ foster-grandparents. As the Wagners’ go from Double-Income-No-Kidders to parents of three, Pete’s mother Sandy (Margo Martindale), and Ellie’s mother Jan (Julie Hagerty), embrace their roles as ‘instant grandmas’.
But, much to Pete and Ellie’s surprise, Sandy and Jan don’t grandparent in the way they did when they were parents. No, in typical grandma-style, the Parenting Rules are out – and Grandma Rules are in.
You might even call it ‘Grandparening like a Boss’, and it’s brilliant. My favourite example is the scene when Pete and Ellie return home to find Jan having a ‘make over’ by the youngest kids, using what seems like markers…but in a serious plot twist, they turn out to be permanent markers.
Ellie’s aghast, but Jan is surprisingly…chill.
But that's how boss grandies roll - that's how they show their love for their grandkids. Parent Rules out, Grandy Rules in!
I know this from personal experience. In fact, so do my friends. Let's go: