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Ask Bossy: I can't STAND my best-friend's five-year old son.

Hi darlings,

This week’s Ask Bossy dilemma comes from a mum who is having a bit of an issue with her friends son, who is five.

Dear Bossy….

I have recently made a new friend and I love her to bits, and her feelings are mutual. 

However my problem is that we have sons the same age, five-years old. They really like each other and play together a lot.

I mind this child a fair bit, my friend’s husband is not very involved in raising their children and thinks it’s the woman’s role to raise them 100% of the time.  My friends son is pretty much a miniature version of the father. He is misogynistic and sadly I can’t stand him. I try to teach him the rules when in he is in our house (By playing nicely and having manners etc)…

But he honestly has these conniving little eyes and constantly pushes me to my absolute limits. I feel terrible saying this and even feeling this but I really don’t like him. I don’t like the power play he has over my son, I don’t like how he treats his mother and I don’t like him being around me. I could never say anything to my friend, she knows he is hard work and sometimes pulls him up but a lot of the time lets him get away with murder. Knowing that he is coming over stresses me out so much, he makes me anxious and irritable. I can’t believe I can’t stand my best friends son. It makes me sad. I secretly want to pinch him when no one is looking! I wouldn’t but I want to!

Yeah this is tough. Here’s what I think:

A lot of people feel this way about kids. And here’s the thing.

When you’ve got little kids, they bring over little kid friends, and you don’t like them all. Some of them you have an instant reaction towards, and you just don’t like the cut of their jib. It happens. I think it’s human nature to not adore every child.

And children can be annoying too, and when they’re not your own, of course they’re annoying. But they are in your house, and they are your guest. So you have to remember that.

My step-dad always used to tell me when kids came over, that they are your guest and you will treat them with respect and kindness.

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I think this is a message that you should try and take into your dealings with this child. Because the reality is that you are an adult, and that child is a child.

The one thing people remember is kindness.  Kindness is never a bad thing.

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