Men are charming. Actually, more than we give them credit for.
Sometimes, it’s easy to even start a relationship without opening our eyes to their bad side, but instead idealising them and considering ourselves lucky.
But the issues won’t go away just because we’re in love. They will grow bigger and come out when we least expect them. This means guaranteed arguments in the future, a big chance for a breakup, negative emotions when having to talk about this and deal with it, and much more.
What to do then? See who your partner is right now, before things have escalated and before your love becomes bigger than your sense of control.
For example, there’s a high possibility that you might be sleeping with a narcissist. These people rarely change, because the very first step to transformation is saying out loud that there’s something that must be changed. And their ego just doesn’t allow this to happen.
Having a narcissist in your life isn’t something you signed up for. It’s not going to be easy. You’ll always be the less important one in your relationship, you’ll constantly need to remind him of how great he is, and he’ll never really show his real feelings as this means being vulnerable, which equals weakness for such people.
You’ll probably never receive the affection you deserve, will always wonder whether he’ll change, whether he’ll notice you, and might lower your opinion of yourself as a result.
Almost every narcissist has the exact same traits, so if you’re aware of these, it’s easy to recognise him and put some limits before a relationship has begun.
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Here are the signs you’re sleeping with a narcissist:
1. Empathy isn’t familiar to him.
Empathy is this beautiful human trait that helps us feel what another person is feeling, be compassionate, and even have the desire to alleviate his pain and help him in some way.
Most people have this to some extent. Narcissists, however, don’t possess it. And it might not sound like a big deal now, but just wait until your feelings for this man deepen and your heart starts expecting the same amount of love from him.
He’s just unable to recognise what you need and how you feel, and there’s rarely anything you can do about it. But, if you’re like most women, you’ll unconsciously start blaming him for that. Blame, however, is never a good thing in a relationship and the result is disastrous.
If you’re currently dating such a person, try to see if he’s lacking empathy to such an extent, that he has no idea what another human being wants and needs.