Men are charming. Actually, more than we give them credit for.
Sometimes, it’s easy to even start a relationship without opening our eyes to their bad side, but instead idealising them and considering ourselves lucky.
But the issues won’t go away just because we’re in love. They will grow bigger and come out when we least expect them. This means guaranteed arguments in the future, a big chance for a breakup, negative emotions when having to talk about this and deal with it, and much more.
What to do then? See who your partner is right now, before things have escalated and before your love becomes bigger than your sense of control.
For example, there’s a high possibility that you might be sleeping with a narcissist. These people rarely change, because the very first step to transformation is saying out loud that there’s something that must be changed. And their ego just doesn’t allow this to happen.
Having a narcissist in your life isn’t something you signed up for. It’s not going to be easy. You’ll always be the less important one in your relationship, you’ll constantly need to remind him of how great he is, and he’ll never really show his real feelings as this means being vulnerable, which equals weakness for such people.
You’ll probably never receive the affection you deserve, will always wonder whether he’ll change, whether he’ll notice you, and might lower your opinion of yourself as a result.
Almost every narcissist has the exact same traits, so if you’re aware of these, it’s easy to recognise him and put some limits before a relationship has begun.