I was an awkward teenager. I wore exactly ten butterfly clips in my hair. I listened to Backstreet Boys on repeat and danced around my room with my deodorant can (‘Impulse’ obvs) as a microphone with my best friend. I had metallic braces. There wasn’t a whole lot going for me at the time. And so it should be – everyone needs to go through the gawky teenager phase.
However, there was one thing my mother did to ensure that, along with all the other issues in my life, the way I saw my body wasn’t one of them.
Raising a daughter is no mean feat. The challenges that parents face in the technological age are overwhelming, and one of the most obvious and significant is a young girl’s perception of their bodies, and more specifically their image. From the ridiculous standards set by the advertising industry, to negative self-talk, to social media standards, and not to mention the pressure from their peers, it’s no wonder this issue is so complex. Navigating the world with a young girl can be overwhelming and parents experience a certain level of helplessness.
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But there was one thing that my Mum did when I was growing up that significantly influenced the way in which I see my body, and has resulted in the positive perception of my body image as an adult.
We didn’t own a set of scales.
That’s right, in the 21 years that I lived with my mother, we never owned a set. They just weren’t something that ever appeared in our bathroom. It wasn’t until years later that I discovered from a conversation with Mum that this was highly intentional.