I’ve been married for eight years, and with my partner for 17 years. We have three girls aged six, four and two. We’re both healthy and our sex life is pretty good considering what my vagina has been through and the lack of time to ourselves.
There is one thing however that I don’t find fair, though. Why does he get to orgasm and finish, but if I orgasm, I have to keep going?
What if I was allowed to jump on, orgasm, and then finish? Would it make me want to have more sex?
Because let’s be honest, he has been doing it for 17 years.
Now, I’ve heard of these mystical men who can orgasm and sustain an erection. My husband is not one of them. Don’t get me wrong, the sex is fantastic but one in four times I’m left feeling hot and bothered without climaxing as he has “come” early.
Let’s be clear – this has NEVER happened to him. There are times when I orgasm early, and what do we do? We keep going of course. My husband would suggest that physically, as a woman, I actually can keep going. I’d like to argue that this is not always true – that those beautiful hormones released during orgasm would much rather have me turn over and sleep immediately. It takes a hell of a lot of effort to continue to perform so that he can orgasm. But it’s never been spoken about.
So, I’ve made a proposal to my husband.
How about I finish after I orgasm, like him?
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I can see multiple benefits in this.
Firstly, it would make me want to have more sex. I’ll be making more of the moves when I’m keen, without the expectation of a romping session that could be interrupted by kids if it goes too long.
Top Comments
Thank goodness my hubby would never leave the job unfinished! We both 'finish' or he works hard until I do, although I'm one of those 'feminists' that always wants more after I 'finish' it's amazing to go & go & go 😁
I enjoyed this, although I think it may misrepresent feminists by implying we aren't compassionate in the bedroom or that we don't want to be generous there. I get what you're saying, but I think it's problematic, considering so many already have the incorrect idea that being a feminist means hating men. Otherwise, this is great because it explores some ingrained notions both sexes have about sex, notions we should re-examine once in a while.