Getting over someone post-breakup is tricky. There are the memories. The reminders. The huge glaring gap on the other side of the bed as you binge Netflix alone. (There is also the fact of bingeing Netflix on a Saturday night in the first place.)
But getting over someone who you know isn’t good for you is even more difficult. Because they are definitely not helping. They are calling. And manipulating. And sweet talking. And trying to turn all your not-so-good memories into excuses that are understandable and from a place of love.
Here are five tips to help you get over someone you really shouldn’t be hooked on.
Make the decision
First off, you’ve realised it. And that is the biggest, more crucial step.
No longer is it just your friends and your mother and your brother telling you the person you’re dating is a douche. Finally, you’ve come to see it, too.
It doesn’t make it any easier. It just means you’ll stop making excuses for their behaviour and, now, every time they let you down it will be one additional nail in the relationship’s coffin… You’ve got the hardest part out of the way.
Block them on social media
Do this right away. Don’t hesitate. Don’t look back. Don’t let your friends stalk them for you and report back.
Instagram is a rabbit hole of time and emotion, even when you’re in the very best of mindsets. When you’re heartbroken, and you’re desperately looking for a sign they are heartbroken too, social media is a cruel, cruel world of endless scroll and torment.
Listen: When everyone says “I can’t believe you’re not taken”. Post continues below.
No, you will not find any solace in their photographs of night clubs and days on the beach.
No, you will not find any comfort in the captions to these photographs, where the hashtags are too happy and the emojis too smiley.
No, you will not find any vindication by secretly stalking every new person you see tagged in their photos.
Social media doesn’t have the answers. More importantly, your goal is to reach a place where you don’t care about their nights out or their use of emojis or the girl photographed sitting on their knee. Deleting them off social media is the first step to this end-game of not giving a f**k.