There are some elements that are essential for a wedding day. The bride is a must. The groom should probably be there. Family and friends are hopefuls. And champagne and cake are absolutely non-negotiable.
There are also elements that are not essential for a wedding day. Embossed, satin-finished, hand-written in calligraphy invitations? Probably not a life-or-death requirement. Imported flowers? Not a necessity. Elaborate, hand-made, cellophane-wrapped, ribbon-tied thank you gifts for guests? Not essential.
Sure, non-essentials can be nice. And embossed wedding-invitations do look lovely stuck on the fridge. But the problem with non-essentials is that they cost money (and they achieve nothing). This means cutting non-essentials is an extremely effective way to save money in planning your wedding, kwithout detracting from the day itself. Here are out list of wedding non-essentials that should be on your cost-cutting hit list.
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Organising guests with lots of bits of paper
‘Save the date’ cards, invitations, place cards, thank you gifts, the list goes on…
Enough. Be brutal. Thank you gifts are not an ultimatum people, neither are place cards – adults can, usually, find their own place to sit. Guests are already enjoying the above-mentioned champagne and cake. They’re also lucky enough to be there on your special day. They do not need the trail of scented stationary and bonbonnières to feel welcome, included and happy for you. They’re there for you remember?
“Guests are just excited to be invited,” former Inside Weddings editor Erin Migdol told Connections.Mic. “Cheap invitations work just as well as the ones lined with gold foil. If the majority of your guests are tech-savvy, you could even consider doing e-vites.”
At a friend’s wedding, they asked guests to write their favourite love song on their RSVP, then they made compilation CDs of all the songs as the gift to guests. That was lovely. – Sam, 32.
Save the dates are useless, I didn’t do them. As are exxy invitations – they get thrown out after the event, why bother spending big? – Jess, 27.
Elaborate decor that nobody sees
Let the location, the people, the atmosphere of the wedding speak for itself. The imported flowers, silk table runners, hand-made centrepieces are not going to make or break this. The way your chair covers match the colour of your aisle runner is not going to affect the beauty, intimacy and celebration of your big day. (READ: non-essential, so more money for champagne and cake!).
“At the end of the day, couples do not care (or even really remember) all the little decor details,” Migdol told Connections.Mic. “They remember how it felt to dance with their friends and look in their partner’s eyes and say their vows. Any little decor element that doesn’t contribute to those memories is really, really unnecessary.”