By: Samantha for Divorced Moms
Let’s face it; life is not perfect. One day you could be standing at the altar with your best friend saying ‘I do’ and a few months later sitting in a lawyer’s office saying ‘I don’t.’ For thousands of people, divorce is far from a light subject, but how do we begin to learn what divorce entails and how exactly do we deal with it?
Furthermore, how do we learn to not only deal with the divorce but grow as a person and move on to our next relationship as a stronger and more mature individual? The best way to do this is by first coming to terms with the parts of divorce that are not pleasant, and learning how to transform these unpleasant moments into a learning experience that then teaches us what we have done wrong, and how to avoid these mistakes in the future.
The good, the bad and the ugly of divorce
1. The good: moving on and maturing
Divorce doesn’t have to be a complete nightmare. In fact, it can actually help you to grow and mature as a person as well as find yourself and fix the flaws within you to start new relationships on a far better footing. On top of this, removing yourself from a toxic relationship where fighting and anger is common can help you to become a happier person and learn what starts the arguments, rather than how to finish them.
Your self esteem
When you choose to leave an abusive relationship, you may realise that the relationship was lowering your self-esteem and turning you into someone that you are not. Once you leave, you can begin to feel more confident overall, and this confidence will help you both in relationships as well as your everyday life. Likewise, a lot of abusive relationships, in particular, that involve children typically make the abused feel like they have to stay around for their kids, however, that is not the case.
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Your children’s mental health
In fact, when a parent removes themselves from a toxic relationship, they are actually removing the chaos that could lead to depression and PTSD in their children. Although it may not be easy at first to leave a relationship you have been a part of for a long time, divorce can actually lead to a far better future for both parties involved, if handled properly, and even allow each party to understand where the other was finally coming from in arguments and emotional opinions.