Today’s post is an anonymous contribution from a midwife working in the National Health Service (in the UK). I publish this to help her find an outlet for her feelings and to draw attention to the looming crisis that maternity services face as more midwives are leaving the profession than joining, funding is being cut and morale is at an all time low.
Mothers and midwives must stand together to protest this state of affairs before the service breaks down all together. #enough
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Dear new mother or mother-to-be,
I’m sorry.
I’m sorry that my clinic was running over because we don’t have enough staff, and that you had to wait in a hot, stuffy room with a rumbling stomach or worry about how you were going to get to nursery pick-up on time.
I’m sorry that you have never met me before, and that you have seen a different midwife at each appointment. I would love to offer continuity to you but that is not how the system is set up. I don’t like it either.
I’m sorry that when you came for your induction, you hadn’t been properly informed about the myriad procedures and protocols it involves and how long it can take, or how much of a toll it can take on your energy levels, your mental wellbeing and your patience.
I’m sorry that my job sometimes requires me to hook you up to machines, strap monitors around your belly, put needles in your arms, and fingers into your most intimate places. Birth shouldn’t be like this.
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love this. I'm sitting in a maternity ward and have been thinking all these things. Our midwives are amazing... And they do their best. As a patient it is frustrating when you are doing your best to learn to breastfeed your baby and really need the help but they do not have the time or the resources to help. So I am out of hospital tomorrow and putting my baby on formula because he is not attaching and I have no idea what I am doing.
I am still so grateful for my baby being born healthy because our doctors and midwives are amazing!!
Thank you!
It is such a shame our Midwives/Doctors/Nurses etc. etc. are spread so thinly. We patients so dearly need their time, support and care.
It would be great if things changed for the better!