Sometimes, when planning a wedding, it is easy to feel overwhelmed. The bride finds herself with months of decision-making, but it’s not just about the venue, the dress and the food. The people she surrounds herself with are critical in making the wedding a success: choosing the bridesmaids is therefore a big decision.
Do I have to?
Deciding on members of the bridal party often comes down to a mix of choice and obligation. There are friends, sisters, sisters-in-law and cousins, as well as nieces, nephews and children of close friends to choose from. Inevitably, not everyone can be included: aim for a balance. This may be a combination of young and old(er), a mix of ultra-organised and less reliable friends, or a true best friend with a lesser-known sister-in-law.
Some brides decide that they do not want any children to be their bridesmaids or pages. The wedding may be strictly no-children, or sometimes younger brides have fewer friends with children. After all, not everyone wants a gaggle of children nearby when they are feeling nervous on the morning of their wedding.
The perfect child?
Inspirational photos of the bride surrounded by cherub-like children in pretty pastel-sashed dresses spring to mind but, in reality, lots of children are hard work. Boisterous or very young children will be harder to manage on the day; quieter and shyer children may feel overwhelmed.
Will they let me down?
Asking friends can be complex. There are the obvious choices: those who will handle responsibility, and be organised, confident and reliable. But not all of our friends are like that. There are our best girlfriends who we know, deep down, may be late for a dress fitting or not take much interest in the planning. Does it matter? As long as the bride manages her own expectations and at least one of the bridesmaids is genuinely up to the job, then probably not.