The most irritating marriage advice ever might just be right...

She’s an infuriating conservative commentator who’s telling us to keep our man happy. But hey, she’s half right, says Jo Abi.

Whose job is it to make us happy? Lots of women feel its their partner’s job to ensure they are happy and fulfilled. But I’m calling bullsh*t.

Your happiness is your own responsibility and nobody else’s.

A controversial American commentator has called for modern women to stop being unappreciative of their partners and to concentrate less on themselves and more on making their husbands happy.

Susan Patton on Fox & Friends.

Susan Patton is an author known for her out-dated beliefs about relationships. She says women need to become "the good wife" and "keep your husband happy".

Patton says she sees today's woman acting like an "entitled princess", prioritising careers ahead of families. She says they should instead concentrate on making sure their men feel appreciated and respected, and treat them with gratitude and kindness. She told Fox & Friends:

If you are in your mid-30s or older the idea that you’re going to find yourself another husband is almost impossible. And if you don’t believe me ask your maiden aunt, she will tell you when she’s done feeding the cats.

I hate myself for saying this but she's half right.

It's not up to women to treat men with gratitude and kindness, but up to both halves of a partnership to treat the other that way.

The reality of long-term relationships is that we do get caught up in our own lives and goals and sometimes we forget to support each other and love each other through the process. So when our partner does make an effort to do this for us, great, but when they don't, instead of feeling sad and unappreciated, find happiness within yourself.

A successful relationship is one in which two happy people choose to be together.


Just because we commit to each other, move in together, get married and have kids, doesn't mean we become the other person's slave to happiness.

Couples need to find their own happiness, not rely on their partner to make them happy.

Happiness and bliss are feelings that come and go. Men need to be loved and supported just as much as women need to be loved and supported. But couples need to understand that being happy is their decision. Blaming someone else for dissatisfaction of any kind is just passing the buck, even if you've been together for a substantial period of time.

Couples who last are the ones who make the decision to be happy, to pursue their own goals and to be there for each other at the end of the day.

So instead of laying it all at the feet of women, Patton would do better to dish out her advice to anyone in a relationship.

And in the unfortunate situation when your partner is being a bit on the mean side, focus on your own life. The happier you are, the more your partner will want to be around you and the sooner they will let go of any negative behaviour.

What do you think is the key to a happy relationship? Is it your partner's job to make you happy?

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