And I’m stopping. As of now.
I didn’t have an ideal childhood. My childhood was sometimes the thing of nightmares. My parents were stressed, money was tight, my siblings and I fought often and I felt incredibly alone.
But, I am who I am today, in part, because of my childhood. And my family and I are incredibly close today.
So… could it be that being a bad parent is actually good for your kids?
I've been accused (on more than one occassion) that I'm a helicopter parent. That I am too protective and that I am ruining my kids.
Normally, I ignore feedback like this. I am doing what I feel is right when it comes to parenting my children. I don't care what anyone else thinks.
Then, it happened. I was sitting down with 3 work colleagues I really respect and they were all yelling at me.
"You're making them scared."
"They'll pick up on your fear."
"You can't DO that."
I was pretty shocked and just shrugged, explaining, "It's how I feel." But it upset me. It upset me a lot, because I knew they were right.