Like most couples G and I were very well behaved for the first few months of our relationship, no nose picking, no farting, no magazines or newspapers in the toilet. I always find it intriguing that men can stifle their farting within the first few months of any new relationship. “Do you know how much pain I was in?” a past boyfriend told me after his talent for farting at 5 minute intervals became a part of our daily routine.
We’d been married for about a year when G said “I’ve never heard you fart?” and just a little bit too quickly I answered “I don’t”.
I was kind of telling the truth. I didn’t fart. In front of him. In fact, I didn’t do any of those things in front of him, the toilet door was not only closed but locked, if he happened to walk past I stopped everything I was doing until I knew he was out of earshot.
Why? I guess I had this belief that some things needed to be kept private, that I would be less of a sex goddess if he could picture me sitting on the loo or squeezing a pimple. Maybe it was growing up without brothers, there were no fart jokes in our house. Although, my father was the master of sneaky farting, whenever that familiar smell made it’s way across the room he’d immediately blame the dog and make it leave the room. Until the day he shouted at the dog and it wasn’t there.
Obviously I couldn’t keep up the no fart facade. Something was going to trip me up and that something came in the form of my first pregnancy.
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We are over sharers! We never close any doors for anything. We have always been that way. I draw the line at weeing in the shower while the other one is in there with you and hubby thinks sharing toothbrushes is revolting. But other than that there are no secrets, lumps bumps & bodily functions are all part of daily life
Hmmm.... to put it bluntly, we don't really have an issue with being in the bathroom with each other, even with one on the toilet and the other brushing teeth. Big exception? The one on the toilet is not allowed to be doing anything stinky. Gas, or number 2. That can, and should, wait. Minty toothpaste seems to make it harder than ever for the tooth brushing one to ignore / shut out the odours.
As an extension, I'm happy with my two year old daughter wandering in and out while I'm in the bathroom - I consider it role modelling in her imminent toilet training. But the door's shut for her sake when my husband's using the toilet or having a shower. Not sure how I'd think about it with a little boy around, since I'm told it's usually Mum doing the training, but I'm obviously not equipped to demonstrate as role model!