The day after the United States Supreme Court's decision to strike down the Defense of Marriage Act – a federal law signed 17 years ago that defined marriage as only being between a man and a woman – this mum wrote about how the decision transformed her family …
Last night, my wife Emily and I had a fight. She was mad about where I had placed my shoes and I was mad that she was mad about something so petty (to me). The argument snowballed until — in typical couple-who-has-been-together-for-12-years fashion — we were bringing up past hurts, complaining about being unappreciated, and saying things like “I can’t believe you!” and “I am so done!” Emily spent half the night on the couch.
In the morning, we begrudgingly made up. At 11am, Emily called from work and didn’t even say hello. Instead, she said, “We’re married.”
“Do you not want to be?” I asked, confused. “No, we’re really married. Federally. The Supreme Court voted down DOMA.”
“Oh, wow. Oh my god, that’s incredible.” We’d been waiting for the ruling since it was first announced that the SCOTUS would be examining the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act — an act which prevented our same-sex New York marriage from being recognized beyond state lines and denied us over 1,000 rights afforded to opposite-sex marriages — with great anxiousness.