The first time it happened, it was utterly bizarre.
And then all at once, nothing. A disappearance act that magicians would marvel at.
My friend was perplexed. After a few unanswered messages, she could only surmise “I guess he’s not interested?”
Since then, this has happened more times than I can count.
Each time, my girlfriends and I sit and question what went wrong. We go over every text message, every conversation. The only thing we can deduce is the common thread amongst all situations:
1. Each felt there was a spark or attraction
2. Each had been talking for a while.
3. Each had recently slept with the other person.
4. Each had not received any resounding conclusion to the relationship.
Putting aside the questionable timing of the mysterious departure, each of my friends have repeated the same question:
“Couldn’t they just tell me if they weren’t interested?”
No. They ghosted.
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When I reached out to a male friend who has been known to ghost in the past in order to get an explanation for this seemingly typical behaviour, he simply said that he did it “because conversations are difficult.”
At this point I should make one obvious thing clear.
I know it’s not just men who do this. Women are absolutely responsible for this bad behaviour, and I wish to hold all genders accountable to their actions.