It’s time we celebrated one of the best sexual experiences a woman can have: sexy time with yo’self.
Despite male masturbation being a fairly ordinary feature of pop culture, from television to movies and song lyrics, female masturbation remains bizarrely taboo.
Just this week, a woman decided to pack a vibrator when entering into a couples swap on Seven Year Switch. Rather than congratulating her on owning her sexuality on prime time television, many clutched their pearls and yelled; “WON’T SOMEBODY PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN!”
(Despite the obvious fact that if women were devoid of sexual impulses there likely would be no children).
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So in the interests of breaking down taboos, and normalising this utterly normal experience, we spoke to five women about their solo sex lives and here’s what we found.
How many times a week do you masturbate?
For all women, as expected, it varies.
Melissa said she masturbates three to five times a week on average, and Laura estimated three to four.
Fatima, Alice and Elle said it was generally once a week. According to a study in The Journal of Sex Research, that’s about average.
Do you watch pornography? And if so, what category?
Three of the five women had no interest in pornography, although Elle said she reads erotica because, “imagination is more fun anyway”.
Laura said that although she doesn’t watch pornography online, she does look at photos. “The photos are generally of women’s butts in G-strings,” she explained. “I’m not gay, that’s just what turns me on.”
Alice doesn’t watch pornography all the time, but when she does she watches lesbian porn. “I think it’s because it focuses more on female pleasure,” she reflected, adding, “It’s the only category I find arousing, to be honest.”