UPDATE: Please note that I have updated this post at 7:55pm on Tues night.
I’m approaching this subject with the extreme caution of a bomb disposal expert. But here goes.
Last time I ventured my opinion on the subject of a particular type of home-birthing called ‘free-birthing’ (which shuns all medical assistance including a midwife) I was pretty much lynched in cyberspace.
It was mid last year when I wrote a feisty criticism of the practice, suggesting those who chose to give birth that way were taking outrageous and self-indulgent risks with the most precious thing in the world – the life of their baby.
Naively, I chose not the best place to publish this criticism. It appeared in the weekly blog I was writing at the time for parenting website Essential Baby. Many of the people who hang out at that website are fairly….strident in their beliefs. About motherhood. About birth. And particularly about home birth.
My piece ignited a absolute firestorm that raged for days and despite several attempts by the site moderator to broker some peace, things degenerated almost immediately to full-on abuse and hate-filled flaming of me. Being called an ‘asshat’ at one point was the nicest thing anyone said. That bad.
In the end, the site moderator had to close comments. That didn’t placate the angry home-birthers who started up new threads to keep abusing me. So then they had to delete my post – at my request. Within a week, we’d decided to part ways (they sacked me at the same time as I decided to quit!) and I haven’t written for them since. I’m sure the Essential Baby community doesn’t miss me. The audience just wasn’t a natural fit – no disrespect to them. We just weren’t suited.
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I am the mother of two beautiful children, and can not understand how some people (mother's and father's) would decide to put their babies at risk by choosing to not have modern medicine available to them in the instance that birth becomes an emergency. My sister recently gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, and her seemingly standard birth became a medical emergency when her baby's heart rate dropped. The OB called for an emergency cesarean, and it became clear that the cord was wrapped around the baby's neck and that if my sister was giving birth at home, the wait and commute to the hospital would have ended very badly for mother and baby. It is great that some women have successful births at home, but for many of us either our lives or the life of our baby is risked by not having access to modern medical assistance the minute a "normal" birth goes pear shaped. My mother had 4 children, and an emergency C-section for my youngest sister - we lived in a regional area of Northern NSW, and I am sure that if my mother had given birth at home that my beautiful sister would not be here now. Is the "experience" of a home birth worth the loss of a person's life? I don't think it is. My beautiful nephew and sister's existence suggests that modern medicine saves babies lives.
U said in your post some mothers/babies have died as a result of natural child birth. Think of it as natural selection our bodies are made to give birth if some bodies give out or a child is lost its just nature/gods way. Just another way to look @ it.