My cousin is getting married.
I could not be happier. They’ve been together over 10 years and I think he finally had enough of the ‘what are you waiting for’ jokes.
Honestly though, they are a great couple and we are really looking forward to the wedding day.
What I am not looking forward to however, is the lead up. The hens day to be specific.
Did I miss the memo that said you need a second mortgage in order to celebrate the ‘last days of freedom’? Am I the only one who is shocked at the amount that guests have to pay in order to be involved?
Here’s the backstory.
Her sister (my other cousin) is arranging the hens day. She sent around a save the date and confirmed numbers some time ago. Being close to the bride to be, I was one of the first to confirm that I would be there.
This week we received an email with a run through of the plans. Firstly, it’s not a hens night, it’s a hens weekend. For me, that means arranging babysitting and expressing an awful lot of boob milk.
But I can cope with that.
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It's not very kind or inclusive to insist hens' guests have to participate in all or nothing - especially when they obviously know some are mothers with babies. Even without the cost, I'd never expect a new mum to arrange for a whole weekend away. I only hope the bride is more understanding than her sister that it's not realistic for you to attend everything - as others have said, I'm sure you won't be the only one and even if you are, I wouldn't feel bad at all for only joining some of the extravagance!
Just tell her you cant afford it. Why lie? Say something like my finances cant stretch that far. Hope you have a good time and leave it at that.