real life

Help, I’m worried I’ll never meet THE one.

Breakups can often be scary, and quite often your self confidence takes a hit. What advice can you give to Jade in this group therapy, who is feeling anxious about the future and worried that she will never meet the one.

Jade writes…


When I turned 18 I met him, we fell in love straight away, he was perfect, we talked about our dreams and our plans. 5 years later we had been living together, talking about buying a house and planning our wedding date.

I was so happy, My dream ever since I was a kid was to fall in love and have a family (I come from a broken home so I always wanted the white picket fence).

Before I met him I was very sociable, confident, life of the party type of girl.
In August my world came crashing down, I discovered he was having an affair for a year with a girl I knew, telling her things he wouldn’t tell me. Being romantic etc which he would never do with me (his excuse we have been together for 5 years, romance doesn’t last forever).

Since leaving him I have realised how unhappy I was and what a emotional abusive relationship I was in. The many nights he would have boys nights and make me stay home, I used to walk on eggshells around him, scared to make him angry because then he would yell and scream at me.

I now have very little self confidence, extremely insecure, not very sociable and slightly depressed.

I have since moved back home to my mums, lost a lot of friends (due to them knowing) and starting from scratch again.  At the end of the day I’m much happier and better off, but my biggest fear and cause of my sadness is I’m now 24 and I’m scared I’m not going meet the one I’m meant to fall in love with and marry and have the family I always dreamed about….

What do you do when life hands you lemons… do you go about making lemonade?