The other day, I was confronted by my past.
A girl I went to high school with in Bathurst left a message on my public Instagram page: “Did you hide behind being a bully too … because of your body image issues? You were so horrible to go to school with.”
This really made me think about my past and what I was like at primary and high school. Yes, this girl was right — I was a bully.
I went to an all-girls high school in the 90s and man, it was bitchy.
There were around 80 of us going through puberty, all in one courtyard. As you can imagine, there were some nasty things that were said and done. I never got to see how boys bully each other, but us girls can really be ‘mean girls’.
I finished high school in 2001 and, to be honest, I’ve put most of it behind me. But clearly the experience is still affecting my old classmate, for which I feel terrible.
During our school years together, I was constantly referred to as ‘the fat loudmouth.’
I was picked on by bullies and it was always about my weight. Maybe it’s a survival technique, but in turn, I was replicating that to her.
I’m not making excuses here, and I’m sure parents and teachers see this cycle over and over.
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