One quarter (24%) of people have had an affair and cheated on a partner at some point in their lives, according to results released today.
Perhaps not surprisingly, exactly 24% of people surveyed (by Relate and Relationships Scotland in ‘The Way we Are Now’ study of 5000 people) also said they were dissatisfied with their sex lives.
It’s disturbing news and something a lot of happy couples will skip over, not wanting to spend any longer than necessary with the unwanted image of a much-loved partner having sex with someone else.
My advice would be if you want to affair-proof your relationship, don’t look away.
Do the opposite and instead face the fact that one or both of you might be tempted in the future – even if you don’t really want to be.
Contrary to popular perception, the majority of people who have an affair don’t want to have one.
Given the choice between feeling utterly sexually satisfied with a partner you love or sneaking around behind their back, feeling guilty and knowing you’re risking your marriage, kids and future happiness for a bit of argy-pargy, any sane person would choose the former.
Sure, once an affair has started there’s a pleasure rush, with all those love and sex hormones reignited by the novelty and excitement of fresh flesh.
Not so appealing, however, when you come home to find your partner ashen faced, your bags packed and your kids sobbing in their bedrooms, wondering why Daddy or Mummy are going away for a while.
Some of us (22% of men and 13% of women) might entertain the idea of having an affair ourselves on occasion – but no-one wants to be the one left home alone.